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Long-Distance Romance: Worth it?
Dear Kelli: I met this incredible girl online. She's absolutely stunning,
with a warmth and charm like you wouldn't believe! She's funny, honest,
affectionate, playful and intelligent. In short, I honestly can't find
ANYTHING about her that I don't love! When I hear from her, it's like the
sunshine breaking through grey clouds after two weeks of rain....(It really
is!) Why am I writing? Kelli, she lives across the country from me and
we're BOTH in relationships with other people. What should I do?
-Smitten Out West in Flames Country
Dear Smitten:
One of our loyal readers sent us this very interesting question and I feel I
must attempt tackling it. He has a dilemma regarding being interested in
a woman who lives across the country from him and they are both in
other relationships. That's two significant dilemmas wrapped in one, but
let's give this a shot! I think if you are in a secure, happy, connected
relationship that you don't want to give up, that you should never put it at
risk to quench your curiosity elsewhere. On the other hand, if you are in
a relationship where you discover yourself having strong feelings about
someone else, then obviously there's something lacking within your
current relationship and you should look deeply into what that something
is and whether or not it can be rectified. If Martin St. Louis passes to
Vincent Lecavalier there's more than a fighting chance of making some
fireworks. However, if the two of you together are like Eric Lindros and
Pavel Bure being on the same team, then perhaps you better sit this one
out and stay where you are. As far as being across the country from each
other, Canada is an awfully large country, so that can really hinder efforts
in having a real relationship. It has been done by exceptionally strong
couples, but it isn't easy.
I strongly feel that both these issues are very personal and it isn't fair to
give an answer without knowing the individual situation. In this specific
readers circumstances I would advise that he looks within his current
relationship and look into the geography situation of his and this woman
in the future and see if there is any chance at taking things any further. If
their geographical situations will not be changing in the future and
neither one of you have intentions of leaving your current relationships
then perhaps you should both either move on, unless that is you can
have a harmless on-line fun together!
Dear Kelli: I met this incredible girl online. She's absolutely stunning,
with a warmth and charm like you wouldn't believe! She's funny, honest,
affectionate, playful and intelligent. In short, I honestly can't find
ANYTHING about her that I don't love! When I hear from her, it's like the
sunshine breaking through grey clouds after two weeks of rain....(It really
is!) Why am I writing? Kelli, she lives across the country from me and
we're BOTH in relationships with other people. What should I do?
-Smitten Out West in Flames Country
Dear Smitten:
One of our loyal readers sent us this very interesting question and I feel I
must attempt tackling it. He has a dilemma regarding being interested in
a woman who lives across the country from him and they are both in
other relationships. That's two significant dilemmas wrapped in one, but
let's give this a shot! I think if you are in a secure, happy, connected
relationship that you don't want to give up, that you should never put it at
risk to quench your curiosity elsewhere. On the other hand, if you are in
a relationship where you discover yourself having strong feelings about
someone else, then obviously there's something lacking within your
current relationship and you should look deeply into what that something
is and whether or not it can be rectified. If Martin St. Louis passes to
Vincent Lecavalier there's more than a fighting chance of making some
fireworks. However, if the two of you together are like Eric Lindros and
Pavel Bure being on the same team, then perhaps you better sit this one
out and stay where you are. As far as being across the country from each
other, Canada is an awfully large country, so that can really hinder efforts
in having a real relationship. It has been done by exceptionally strong
couples, but it isn't easy.
I strongly feel that both these issues are very personal and it isn't fair to
give an answer without knowing the individual situation. In this specific
readers circumstances I would advise that he looks within his current
relationship and look into the geography situation of his and this woman
in the future and see if there is any chance at taking things any further. If
their geographical situations will not be changing in the future and
neither one of you have intentions of leaving your current relationships
then perhaps you should both either move on, unless that is you can
have a harmless on-line fun together!